tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post112421496655794001..comments2023-10-29T09:34:54.428-04:00Comments on Code, Code World: Motif Monday... but on TuesdayBillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124365841380095552005-08-18T07:50:00.000-04:002005-08-18T07:50:00.000-04:00a. darcy - It is definitely a two headed beast for...a. darcy - It is definitely a two headed beast for me, seems to want me stuck in the middle all the time! Thanks for stopping by!<BR/><BR/>Spirit - I love your comments... you're rarely off the mark! :)<BR/><BR/>I let anxiety nearly ruin my life, it was a big step to admit that to myself and get help, like you I needed some pills to get me from where I was, to where I am. I feel fortunate that they were a short term solution, but, I'd have continued to take them, if I'd needed to!<BR/><BR/>Maryan is doing much better!! I'm actually at the job today!<BR/><BR/>CA - Got that one too! Contract work can really get to you if you let the uncertainty of finding the next gig get to ya!! I don't 'fear' being poor though, been there, done that. I'd rather not repeat it, but I know I could survive it.<BR/><BR/>Thanks again evryone for stopping by, and for taking the time to leave your toughts with me!Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124330221734564252005-08-17T21:57:00.000-04:002005-08-17T21:57:00.000-04:00Great post, Bill. You and I have a lot of the sam...Great post, Bill. You and I have a lot of the same fears (except the dentist; I have always had good experiences with mine). My favorite recent fear is the fear that I'll lose my job or be poor. Neither of these are too probable but I can dream, can't I?Comfort Addicthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06748708787226855876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124322109102591252005-08-17T19:41:00.000-04:002005-08-17T19:41:00.000-04:00I feel the fear of leaving a comment that's going ...I feel the fear of leaving a comment that's going to seem inane right now... :) That was quite something to read. I relate comletely to what you're saying, having allowed anxiety push me out of opportunity after opportunity. Now, though, like you, I think I'm starting to learn about facing fears - but I have to keep taking the pills too.<BR/><BR/>I notice that you mentioned dental fear... Hmmm. Sounds familiar...! I'm really glad that Maryan's recovering, and I so hope that she continues to do so. Mean Girl said it best - have a beautiful day!Spirit Of Owlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12650481514046944156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124314427054551772005-08-17T17:33:00.000-04:002005-08-17T17:33:00.000-04:00I am afrade of being alone, but have a serious dis...I am afrade of being alone, but have a serious dislike of people. Crowds are too big, small gatherings are too intimate, ...guess I never thought about the dicotomy of fear before. <BR/>Great post.A. Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15669379972970139971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124286400690640092005-08-17T09:46:00.000-04:002005-08-17T09:46:00.000-04:00GK - Yes we do, one thing at a time, one day after...GK - Yes we do, one thing at a time, one day after the other, one foot in front of the other... it's a process after all :)<BR/><BR/>Thanks, me too, now if I could just keep her planted on the sofa or the bed until we see the Doc next!!Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124281284641420372005-08-17T08:21:00.000-04:002005-08-17T08:21:00.000-04:00One at a time, you keep on conquering!I'm so glad ...One at a time, you keep on conquering!<BR/><BR/>I'm so glad your wife is doing better.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17335415338155220244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124249282587057612005-08-16T23:28:00.000-04:002005-08-16T23:28:00.000-04:00MG - Thanks, I was only 19 when that happened, I d...MG - Thanks, I was only 19 when that happened, I doubt I could pull it off today... although I'd probably try!<BR/><BR/>Nanina - I do appreciate her, she's a constant source of inspiration for me in so many ways! Thanks, she's even better this evening.<BR/><BR/>bushcheney - Thanks..<BR/><BR/>Firehawk - It is a cycle if we don't find a way to break it! I think it's another of those 'universal' elements we've discussed... one we all feel alone with, but, we all ultimately have!<BR/><BR/>Fear has definitely molded many of my experiences, I simply am glad I learned to move beyond fear in most cases.<BR/><BR/>Judith - Thanks, I don't know as anything would go wrong, stay or go... It's those 'decidings' we do that often hold us back from making a change when we want to.<BR/><BR/>Braleigh - Thanks, It was mostly false bravado I think... but regardless it had the desired result. How we get past the roadblock, isn't all that important, IMO, that we get by it is.<BR/><BR/>Jay - Yes it is, and at times it is overwhelming... that's when I head for the shop and beat on some steel, or throw a leg over the bike and take a ride... get away, get some perspective and then have at it all again.<BR/><BR/>Trevor - You don't need to fear America, we're too busy worrying about being too fat, too skinny, having too much hair, not enough.. etc, etc to be a real problem for you! Ghosts... Hmmmm.. once I actually see one, well *then* I'll be scared of them too! :)<BR/><BR/>Thanks everyone for all the good wishes for Maryan, she's doing real well, and her biggest challenge is not doing, what she's NOT supposed to do!Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124240158496792912005-08-16T20:55:00.000-04:002005-08-16T20:55:00.000-04:00I'm afraid of America, I'm afraid of the world.Act...I'm afraid of America, I'm afraid of the world.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Actually, what I am afraid of is ghosts. Seriously!<BR/><BR/>I'm glad MAryan is going better.Trevor Recordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09740266736453002266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124237484499563672005-08-16T20:11:00.000-04:002005-08-16T20:11:00.000-04:00Great post Bill - life is about fear, living with ...Great post Bill - life is about fear, living with it, dealing with it, and learning to reel it in so it doesn't overwhelm you. Often easier said than done.Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13158409505328990008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124227892523002402005-08-16T17:31:00.000-04:002005-08-16T17:31:00.000-04:00That was a spectacular and thoughtful post. I'm gl...That was a spectacular and thoughtful post. I'm glad to hear that Maryan is doing better.<BR/><BR/>I find it amazing that you immediately bought a new bike after your release from the hospital. I always have problems following the whole 'getting back on the horse' method of coping, even though I have experienced that it is the best means in overcoming a fear.Risuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882640814114412051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124223451859594732005-08-16T16:17:00.000-04:002005-08-16T16:17:00.000-04:00I can relate to the want to/don't want to move bac...I can relate to the want to/don't want to move back to friends and family. I am living on the West Coast, but am from NY. We are living very comfortably, but if we were to move my dh would be making a major commute, and that's just the beginning of things that would start going terribly wrong.Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15190878378207608992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124221751303922332005-08-16T15:49:00.000-04:002005-08-16T15:49:00.000-04:00Bill,Thoughtful post. You hit on the real point o...Bill,<BR/><BR/>Thoughtful post. You hit on the real point of a "cycle of fear", where we are afraid to go forward and afraid to go back. We stand there on our emotional ledge, afraid of every step in any direction. Fear erodes our confidence and dissipates our enthusiasm for things we love, but it also provides us with the biggest opportunity for triumph--if you succeed and you knew you could, and weren't scared the whole time, what kind of victory is that? If you succeed despite all manner of trevails and lapses in moral courage, then you can look back on that and be proud of yourself. There's an old quote from a guy named E. Talbot Donaldson that said this: "Courage is the mechanism by which a hero creates himself."<BR/><BR/>Without fear, there is no courage, and we are deprived of the opportunity to "create ourselves" in this way. There is no winning without the possibility of loss.<BR/><BR/>You've faced up to a lot of things in your travels, Bill. The reason you're the man you are now, rather than the frailer personality of the past, is the fact you've had to bear up under fear and doubt, still somehow getting what you need to do, done.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing these thoughts with us. We often feel alone with our own day-to-day terrors, but we aren't. It's good to be reminded that it's just being human.Patrick M. Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14366666601869757080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124221471319129462005-08-16T15:44:00.000-04:002005-08-16T15:44:00.000-04:00nice post!bushisnotantichrist.blogspot.comnice post!<BR/><BR/>bushisnotantichrist.blogspot.comBushcheney08https://www.blogger.com/profile/01927659876373612705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124220234311322372005-08-16T15:23:00.000-04:002005-08-16T15:23:00.000-04:00Wonderful post Bill, I love reading about how much...Wonderful post Bill, I love reading about how much you appreciate your wife. I am glad Maryan is doing better and resting.Ninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15383280445002541782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1124217425592233812005-08-16T14:37:00.000-04:002005-08-16T14:37:00.000-04:00What an awesome post, Bill. As a fellow rider, I a...What an awesome post, Bill. As a fellow rider, I applaud you for getting back on the road. I know how challenging overcoming that fear can be. <BR/><BR/>I actually started riding with my ex years ago, to help get over my anxiety from a nasty car accident a few years earlier.<BR/><BR/>I am glad to hear Maryan is doing better~ <BR/><BR/>Have a beautiful day~<BR/><BR/>mgpaulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14839029982074101175noreply@blogger.com