tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post112709818780808721..comments2023-10-29T09:34:54.428-04:00Comments on Code, Code World: Wealth, Success… HappinessBillhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1127349677013354962005-09-21T20:41:00.000-04:002005-09-21T20:41:00.000-04:00Firehawk -"the key thing for me is to keep from "g...Firehawk -<BR/><BR/>"the key thing for me is to keep from "gnawing" on things--playing them over and over" <BR/><BR/>Man, isn't that the truth!! If I keep that demon at bay, life is oh, so much simpler!<BR/><BR/>"The best thing is to figure out what's next, then go for it. "<BR/><BR/>That's my 'policy' if I have one... don't complain, hold a pity party.. just decide what needs doing next, and get to doing it... focusing on what's next helps me not do the first thing too!<BR/><BR/>"overload those "reasonable" circuits in your brain and make you into an angry ape with a thigh bone"<BR/><BR/>Heh- heh... so *that's* what it's called!! I knew there had to be a name for it (other than 'Mr. Hyde')<BR/><BR/>Thanks Firehawk, I'm glad to be here, even happier y'all are here too!Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1127269529069880472005-09-20T22:25:00.000-04:002005-09-20T22:25:00.000-04:00Bill,I think you're totally right. Things are as ...Bill,<BR/><BR/>I think you're totally right. Things are as bad as you choose to make them. If you have a rough day, maybe your "funds" run low, but the key thing for me is to keep from "gnawing" on things--playing them over and over, staying mad about something for way too long. <BR/><BR/>I like to think of my policy as this, "No problem." That's not always possible, but if you can remain objective about it, just getting angry about something rarely helps. The best thing is to figure out what's next, then go for it. <BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, there's always something that'll overload those "reasonable" circuits in your brain and make you into an angry ape with a thigh bone. You just try to avoid those circumstances the best you can.<BR/><BR/>Again, a good column. Thanks for being around.Patrick M. Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14366666601869757080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1127238666323638492005-09-20T13:51:00.000-04:002005-09-20T13:51:00.000-04:00Spirit -"I don't know why I go to extremes"That co...Spirit -<BR/><BR/>"I don't know why I go to extremes"<BR/><BR/>That could have been, or was, my theme song for many, many years.<BR/><BR/>I'd swing widely from one extreme to another, balance a place I could not find.<BR/><BR/>I still struggle with it today, finally I have it at least as many days as not, and on those days where I can identify what's pulled me from that balanced place I try to understand how it happened.<BR/><BR/>Just try to remember it's a process, not an event.<BR/><BR/>And yes, I remember all too well screaming (at no one in particular) that I *wanted* an event!! I wanted to be there already!!<BR/><BR/>Trying is half the battle, not giving up the other half! :)<BR/><BR/>Always good to see you here.Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1127236775354870222005-09-20T13:19:00.000-04:002005-09-20T13:19:00.000-04:00I think that the idea that I should work until the...I think that the idea that I should <I>work until the stress goes away</I> has really caused me a lot of damage in the past. Then, I have nothing left. So, clearly I identify with what you're saying.<BR/><BR/>But although I <I>understand</I>, I'm nowhere near being able to do anything about it. I still either overcompensate and over-DO to try and rectify anything and everything, or I shut down and leave everything undone. Middle ground is not my middle name. Balance neither.<BR/><BR/>I'm trying though, and it's certainly inspirational to know that, in the long run, it's the way to go.Spirit Of Owlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12650481514046944156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1127230750136668472005-09-20T11:39:00.000-04:002005-09-20T11:39:00.000-04:00Beth (GK)... I almost didn't recognize you! With ...Beth (GK)... I almost didn't recognize you! With all you've had going on, I'm glad you had a moment to stop in here.<BR/><BR/>Hope for the best, cope with the rest."<BR/><BR/>Can we really do much else? A couple of days ago one of the managers at work asked my how things were going (making conversation at the coffee pot)... I answered "Same as always, one day at a time"... She looked at me with this quizzical expression... and I added, "That's all I can do, I only get one day at a time"<BR/><BR/>I'm still not sure she ever 'got it'...<BR/><BR/>I hope you're feeling better soon!Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1127228852931570062005-09-20T11:07:00.000-04:002005-09-20T11:07:00.000-04:00Bill, I've had a lot of it lately. I think for me...Bill, I've had a lot of it lately. I think for me, I just don't do the worrying game. I never expect things to be terrible. I truly believe in the old saying, "Hope for the best, cope with the rest."<BR/><BR/>When I cope, it's with humor.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17335415338155220244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1127185016989608712005-09-19T22:56:00.000-04:002005-09-19T22:56:00.000-04:00CA - it is a journey after all... I agree complete...CA - it is a journey after all... I agree completely that the older I get, the better I get at handling things.<BR/><BR/>Balance is a very essential, if not key, component to handling stress.<BR/><BR/>Your suggestion of not letting the 'stressor' dominate your time, is in fact, the most difficult thing for me. Regardless of what my rational mind knows, when I'm stressed, I convince myself if I just work "hard enough" at it, I'll relieve the stress.<BR/><BR/>My previous employer is who convinced me, that no matter how hard I worked, there was always another 'emergency' around the corner.<BR/><BR/>My new mantra is:<BR/><BR/>"A lack of planning on your part, does not justify and emergancy on mine"<BR/><BR/>Thanks for stopping in, and sharing your thoughts.Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07338910000372628114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9922132.post-1127177438054738042005-09-19T20:50:00.000-04:002005-09-19T20:50:00.000-04:00You've got some good ideas, Bill. I try to do app...You've got some good ideas, Bill. I try to do apply them, too (with varying degrees of success). The older I get, the better I seem to handle things.<BR/><BR/>When I get stressed, I focus on what's important (from a life standpoint, not a work one) and forget about as much other stuff as I can. The most important word for me is balance (don't let whatever is stressing dominate your time).Comfort Addicthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06748708787226855876noreply@blogger.com